Routines: Who has them?


For the second time in our married life, I’m finally on a daily routine again (The first one lasted 6 months, when Jacob had a steady work schedule).

YES! I’m finally finding something that works for me! I didn’t find it on a blog (though some have some really good ideas), but the simple pen to paper mode.

For numerous days I wrote down what we did and when. Then I gauged what I wanted to do each day and when. I started to slowly move things around. This is the final result. The only thing I haven’t done yet is the thing I want to do most (Isn’t that just life?!), praying in the morning.


Non-working Days (no substitute teaching)

6:30-7:00 – Prayer time/ Peter watch TV or join in, if up

7:00 -7:30 – Shower (with Peter most days), Quick swipe of make-up, take the wetness out of the hair and leave it damp, and dress to my shoes for the day

7:30 – 8:00(ish) – Make, Eat, and Clean up Breakfast (I like making a weeks worth of food on one day and freezing the rest for the week to come)

8:00 – 11:15 – Open*

11:15 -12:00 – Make, Eat, and Clean up Lunch

12:00 – 1:30 – Read a couple books with Peter/Quiet Time/ Nap-time

1:30 – 5:00 – Open*

5:00 -6:00 – Supper (my Mom cooks most days: Score for me)

6:00 – 7:00 – Open*

7:00 – 7:30 – Clean up rooms, Chores, Books, Prayers, Bedtime clothes and Peter in bed for the night (watching an episode of Curious George, if needed)

7:30- 10:00 PM-  ME TIME!  Sunday, Tuesday, and Friday my Mom will listen for Peter while I go to the gym! Monday and Thursday is Craft time. Wednesday and Saturday are zone out nights.

7:30 PM – 5:30 AM – The goal is to have Peter in his room this whole time so I can get a good night’s sleep


The “Open” parts of the day I actually have something in mind. However, I’m not going to go all out right away, because I don’t want to get overwhelmed. Now it’s just random: computer time, play time in Peter’s room, Price’s Right, play time at friend’s house, Gym time at the Community Center with Peter, School time, and random craft.

Ideally, I would like the first chunk of time to be just for school. The second chunk of time to be just for outside/Gym time play and/or  hang out with friends. The last chunk of time to be for family interaction time with Peter. Ideally.

If I don’t get to it, no biggie, because my New Year’s Resolution is to be kinder to myself.

The second part of this is getting Peter to sleep in his bed all night. He wakes up every night at 1AM. He has since the dawn of time. Seriously. It’s almost clockwork. Jacob and I would just bring him into bed with us, but I’m having issues with him turning sideways and kicking me while he sleeps . It’s a new thing and I’m not a fan. So I decided I’m fine with him getting into bed with me at 5:30 AM because he will sleep longer in the morning if I’m in the same room. However, I have to get up and go back and forth between my room and his A LOT lately. Which means I’m not getting as much sleep as I want. In the long run, I will get more sleep. ::repeats to self, I will get more sleep:: Last night I was in and out of his room a dozen times. I counted. Between 1 and 2 AM was 8 times and between 4 and 5 AM was 4 times. I let him get into bed with me at 5AM.

This is what Peter looks like at 8PM. So cute with his Monkey and Crucifix.

Since I’m not getting as much sleep, I’m having problems getting up before him to pray. As in, I haven’t done it yet. This is also because I’m having problems getting in bed at 10PM. I need to start to go to sleep at 10PM because I know me and how much sleep I need. A massive amount.

So it’s a work in progress, but I like the way we are going. Things are clicking along better for us and the days are shorter because we are busy instead of just floating along. Meaning: Closer to see Jacob!!

Meanwhile: Anyone have any tips on having Peter say goodbye to Jacob a second time? I have a feeling it’s going to be harder than the first time.









I have to admit

Blogging is not a priority right now.

Jacob is leaving next month for basic. Time sees so fleeting right now. I’m really trying to focus my time and energy into my family.


Some updates for us:

Jacob has Drill this weekend.

We rode on Amtrak this past weekend! Peter loved it!

Peter trick or treated for the first time yesterday and really enjoyed it. He hid his face every time he sees something scary. He would duck his head into Jacob’s neck. How I wish I could just be carried and I could hid away from my fears like a two year old.

I’m going slowly on the weight loss, but I’m STILL losing, and that’s the point. I’m at 209.4 pounds today! That’s a loss of 9 pounds this month! I’ll take it! 207 is my 10% goal! Whoop-whoop! I’m going to make my family clap for me (because I need that feedback).

Peter is growing and pushing boundaries. It’s amazing to see how his brain works, but because of this growth… he’s seen a lot of time-out lately. In fact, he’s seen so much time-out that he put one of his Army Man in Time-out for shooting another Army Man (that was funny).

Peter can hop on one foot, multiple times. He’s two and a half! That’s some mad skills for him.

He’s really into cutting with scissors right now. So much so, we have to hid the scissors.

Today Peter was telling me a story while I was busy fixing lunch. I had to stop and give him my full attention when he told me to, “Look at me (pointed to his face) in the eyes.” Something that we say to him when we have something important to say. So funny, sweet, and serious.

Our dog is staying with a family friend until Jacob comes back. We said goodbye to him this past weekend. If he gets along really well with them, he may stay with them forever. We’re a little sad about it.

I’m going down to Topeka next week to stay with our BIL, SIL, and nephew. SIL is 38 weeks pregnant and I’m going to come down and clean and do whatever she wants for two days. This is also my last big break from Peter before Jacob leaves and is only the three time I’ve left him this long!

Peter is going to test out a back up daycare this week. We are just going to visit the first time, leave for an hour the second time, 4 hours the next time, and then full day after that. I’m hoping for a smooth transition.

Tomorrow is the next ICAN meeting. ::sigh:: I love ICAN, but hate it all at once. I love it’s a safe place to talk about Peter’s birth, I hate that it’s a monthly reminder of the c-section and it’s still really painful to me. Tomorrow is also a little nerve-racking because I’m going to verbally tell Peter’s birth story out loud… hopefully… if I don’t pass out first. ::weak smile::

We are buying our Christmas presents now. We want to have everything done before Jacob leaves December 7th. We will be celebrating St. Nicholas’ feast day this year (December 6th), instead of Santa Claus.

We are talking of holiday plans and letting family members know of our plans, so it’s not surprising when Jacob’s gone.

We are also discussing Jacob’s leave date. Who’s going to the airport, where we are going to say goodbye, how we are going to explain to Peter…

I’ve been crying a lot lately. A lot. I feel overly emotional about everything right now.

We got an iPod and I’m in LOVE. Seriously love this product.

Jacob and I are participating in a Bible Study about the new translations of the Mass. I’m really enjoying it! I’m also glad it’s only 5 weeks so Jacob and I could go together and have it finished before he leaves.



That’s some highlights about us for now. I’m hoping to have another photo post soon! We’ve been taking a lot of photos lately!


Jacob’s Enlisted!!!

I woke up the morning of enlistment with fear in my throat and scared thoughts in my mind. We were waiting for our escort through base when Jacob remembered that he forgot his paperwork at home. At that moment his sister, Rachel, and mom, Kris, drove through. I jumped out, had his mom get in the car with Jacob and told Rachel what happened and we were on our way back to the apartment. As we were leaving I saw my other sister in law, Stella, drive up and look at us. I laughed. She was so confused. Rachel quickly drove us back home, I got the paperwork, raced back to the car, drove back, threw up in my mouth a little, went through the guards, ran inside. I called Jacob several times to make sure he wouldn’t enlist without me.

And was on time. I sat down next to Jacob, holding Peter and fell at peace. The stress and worry lifted and peace flowed through my body. I went back outside to the main waiting area and Jacob’s mom, Rachel (who left for basic today!!), Ben (who was the first to join the Air National Guard, and now works for the Army), his son Levi (who’s 2 too!), and Stella (also in ANG!). I left Peter out there with them so I could concentrate more and Peter could move around.

We went through all the paperwork and I felt fine. Jacob was sworn in (pictures to come, SILs-Stella and Rachel has them). Congratulated. And we took pictures.

The siblings: Rachel, Jacob, (Peter wanted Daddy), and Ben

Our family: Me, Jacob, and Peter (never looking at the camera for a family photo)


The whole family (minus Jacob’s dad, couldn’t make it): Rachel, Jacob’s Mom~Kris, Me, Jacob, Peter, Ben, Stella, and Levi


Peter and the American Flag

I pray the peace that filled me on the day of enlistment, stays with me as we continue this journey. We may get a leave date during Jacob’s first drill (first weekend in August, 6 days after move). Less than a month from now.

Busy Moving… er, Packing anyway

Peter and I spent the last 11 days in our future short-term home… My parent’s basement!

Though not the perfect situation, it will work out well for us until we find something to rent in town. Peter will be sharing my sister’s old bedroom with my nephew, who lives there part-time.

I spent the days watching Peter in the heat, sorting, trashing, Goodwill-ing, keeping all the totes I had in my Parent’s garage. I labeled the totes starting with a random 45 Please, Lord, Don’t let us pack 45 totes here in Topeka. I switched any boxes we still had left into totes. We had SEVEN seven?! 20 gallon totes that went to Goodwill. I was able to bring 4 totes back, the rest I left with Goodwill (they need totes too). Then promptly used them. I listed from 45 to 69 totes… that means that I sorted and kept 24 totes. I feel like I need to qualify that about 10 of them are smaller book totes. We have 14 packed at our apartment right now. So that is a total of 38 totes, to date! We really  haven’t started packing the nitty-gritty here in Topeka.

Even with all the decluttering and letting go that I’ve done, I still feel like we have too much material stuff. I will say that I have one 20 gallon tote for every town I’ve lived in (SIX!). Some of these things I don’t know how to let go, and sometimes I don’t want to let them go. I know that they will pretty much forever be stored in totes, but I can’t let them go. Maybe in a couple more years, but not right now. About half of the 14 totes in hometown contain items I used while teaching. I taught at a very low-income, school didn’t have money either, area. When I taught, I wasn’t married, I did live at home (at that time Jacob and I were engaged, seemed silly to move out for a year and then move again). So I had the ability to put a couple hundred dollars back into my classroom, each paycheck. Books, file folder games, supplies, food, and the list goes on. In fact, I spent so much money on the classroom that the second year I made a goal to only spend $50 per paycheck on the classroom.

I don’t want to throw away all the things I bought (8 totes of GOOD books), and feel that I will use them homeschooling Peter in a couple years. So I’m keeping those for sure, I sorted out material I thought was outdated and didn’t like.

I told Jacob that he shouldn’t feel like he needs to get rid of all his stuff, because even if he kept it all, it wouldn’t equal the amount I have in storage. He did go through and weed out items that he didn’t want anymore (for the two hours he was in the garage with me).

But I digress…

After sorting all the totes, my Dad and I loaded all of them, plus the two big furniture pieces and drove them to the town we want to live long-term (about 45 minutes away). Then unloaded it.

I also looked around at cell phones. We have Wal-Mart’s Straight Talk and it will not work were we are moving. Jacob and I can’t figure out what plan we want to get, or try to go no contract with a different phone. Our hometown area has bad coverage for cell phones, except for US Cellular, and they are expensive. We also know that internet isn’t fast at my parents, so should we get a really expensive phone that you can get online with? The questions keep coming. I don’t think we have figured out what we want to do, but we will in the next 16 days.

While I was home I went through my old bedroom. It had an odd combination of childhood, adult, married, momma life in it! From clothes that fit me 3 sizes ago, and probably won’t fit me again (size 5?! Um, no), to Peter’s bassinet! I rearranged the bedroom to give us the most space and living area (so we can have alone time in our bedroom).

Then I went into my sister’s room and took down all her childhood posters (I should note, it was with her permission!!) and helped my mom figure out where to put things. I think we have a working arrangement!

I also did random things, 4th of July parade, lunch with friends, and a couple small road trips. And I did most of this with a 2 year old in tow.

I realized something very important about myself. I think we will do okay when Jacob leaves for basic/tech school, but there will be more ups and downs with Peter’s behavior and because of that I need scheduled breaks.

I’m not talking about long periods of time, more along the lines of going to the gym for an hour by myself or a quiet couple hours just to get things done that are hard to do with a little shadow. And frankly, I want to go to the bathroom alone sometimes. 😉 My Momma and I talked a lot about schedules, boundaries, food, and cleaning while I was home and I think we came up with something that will work for us.


Moving ~I may die, less than a month!

28 days until we move.

Ironic to me that I’m not at our apartment! Peter and I are in Iowa! Helping my parents clean the three car garage and house. I have about 30 totes in there from when I was teaching. I have decluttered and donated 5 of them and am going to go through them again this week. The items that I do not get rid I’m doing a couple things to them.

1. I’m going to make sure like items are together.

2. I’m going to write down what is in every tote!

3. I’m going to number the outside of the tote.

4. I’m going to put that data together in an excel spreadsheet.

I’m doing these things because I’ve lived out of totes before. If I don’t know what’s in each tote, I can’t find it and use it. I don’t want to waste what we have because we can’t find it.

Once everything is numbered, I’m moving them all to storage. The same storage place we will be renting a moving a lot of our things to at the end of July.

I’ve already starting number totes at our apartment, I’m up to 14! Jacob is still at our apartment working, cleaning, and packing! We gave out notice to our Landlord and our HUGE, never going to get it done in time cleaning list.

My sister’s old room is being a temporary room for Peter and his cousin (that also lives with my parents part-time).