Routines: Who has them?

Routines.

For the second time in our married life, I’m finally on a daily routine again (The first one lasted 6 months, when Jacob had a steady work schedule).

YES! I’m finally finding something that works for me! I didn’t find it on a blog (though some have some really good ideas), but the simple pen to paper mode.

For numerous days I wrote down what we did and when. Then I gauged what I wanted to do each day and when. I started to slowly move things around. This is the final result. The only thing I haven’t done yet is the thing I want to do most (Isn’t that just life?!), praying in the morning.

 

Non-working Days (no substitute teaching)

6:30-7:00 – Prayer time/ Peter watch TV or join in, if up

7:00 -7:30 – Shower (with Peter most days), Quick swipe of make-up, take the wetness out of the hair and leave it damp, and dress to my shoes for the day

7:30 – 8:00(ish) – Make, Eat, and Clean up Breakfast (I like making a weeks worth of food on one day and freezing the rest for the week to come)

8:00 – 11:15 – Open*

11:15 -12:00 – Make, Eat, and Clean up Lunch

12:00 – 1:30 – Read a couple books with Peter/Quiet Time/ Nap-time

1:30 – 5:00 – Open*

5:00 -6:00 – Supper (my Mom cooks most days: Score for me)

6:00 – 7:00 – Open*

7:00 – 7:30 – Clean up rooms, Chores, Books, Prayers, Bedtime clothes and Peter in bed for the night (watching an episode of Curious George, if needed)

7:30- 10:00 PM-  ME TIME!  Sunday, Tuesday, and Friday my Mom will listen for Peter while I go to the gym! Monday and Thursday is Craft time. Wednesday and Saturday are zone out nights.

7:30 PM – 5:30 AM – The goal is to have Peter in his room this whole time so I can get a good night’s sleep

 

The “Open” parts of the day I actually have something in mind. However, I’m not going to go all out right away, because I don’t want to get overwhelmed. Now it’s just random: computer time, play time in Peter’s room, Price’s Right, play time at friend’s house, Gym time at the Community Center with Peter, School time, and random craft.

Ideally, I would like the first chunk of time to be just for school. The second chunk of time to be just for outside/Gym time play and/or  hang out with friends. The last chunk of time to be for family interaction time with Peter. Ideally.

If I don’t get to it, no biggie, because my New Year’s Resolution is to be kinder to myself.

The second part of this is getting Peter to sleep in his bed all night. He wakes up every night at 1AM. He has since the dawn of time. Seriously. It’s almost clockwork. Jacob and I would just bring him into bed with us, but I’m having issues with him turning sideways and kicking me while he sleeps . It’s a new thing and I’m not a fan. So I decided I’m fine with him getting into bed with me at 5:30 AM because he will sleep longer in the morning if I’m in the same room. However, I have to get up and go back and forth between my room and his A LOT lately. Which means I’m not getting as much sleep as I want. In the long run, I will get more sleep. ::repeats to self, I will get more sleep:: Last night I was in and out of his room a dozen times. I counted. Between 1 and 2 AM was 8 times and between 4 and 5 AM was 4 times. I let him get into bed with me at 5AM.

This is what Peter looks like at 8PM. So cute with his Monkey and Crucifix.

Since I’m not getting as much sleep, I’m having problems getting up before him to pray. As in, I haven’t done it yet. This is also because I’m having problems getting in bed at 10PM. I need to start to go to sleep at 10PM because I know me and how much sleep I need. A massive amount.

So it’s a work in progress, but I like the way we are going. Things are clicking along better for us and the days are shorter because we are busy instead of just floating along. Meaning: Closer to see Jacob!!

Meanwhile: Anyone have any tips on having Peter say goodbye to Jacob a second time? I have a feeling it’s going to be harder than the first time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I have to admit

Blogging is not a priority right now.

Jacob is leaving next month for basic. Time sees so fleeting right now. I’m really trying to focus my time and energy into my family.

 

Some updates for us:

Jacob has Drill this weekend.

We rode on Amtrak this past weekend! Peter loved it!

Peter trick or treated for the first time yesterday and really enjoyed it. He hid his face every time he sees something scary. He would duck his head into Jacob’s neck. How I wish I could just be carried and I could hid away from my fears like a two year old.

I’m going slowly on the weight loss, but I’m STILL losing, and that’s the point. I’m at 209.4 pounds today! That’s a loss of 9 pounds this month! I’ll take it! 207 is my 10% goal! Whoop-whoop! I’m going to make my family clap for me (because I need that feedback).

Peter is growing and pushing boundaries. It’s amazing to see how his brain works, but because of this growth… he’s seen a lot of time-out lately. In fact, he’s seen so much time-out that he put one of his Army Man in Time-out for shooting another Army Man (that was funny).

Peter can hop on one foot, multiple times. He’s two and a half! That’s some mad skills for him.

He’s really into cutting with scissors right now. So much so, we have to hid the scissors.

Today Peter was telling me a story while I was busy fixing lunch. I had to stop and give him my full attention when he told me to, “Look at me (pointed to his face) in the eyes.” Something that we say to him when we have something important to say. So funny, sweet, and serious.

Our dog is staying with a family friend until Jacob comes back. We said goodbye to him this past weekend. If he gets along really well with them, he may stay with them forever. We’re a little sad about it.

I’m going down to Topeka next week to stay with our BIL, SIL, and nephew. SIL is 38 weeks pregnant and I’m going to come down and clean and do whatever she wants for two days. This is also my last big break from Peter before Jacob leaves and is only the three time I’ve left him this long!

Peter is going to test out a back up daycare this week. We are just going to visit the first time, leave for an hour the second time, 4 hours the next time, and then full day after that. I’m hoping for a smooth transition.

Tomorrow is the next ICAN meeting. ::sigh:: I love ICAN, but hate it all at once. I love it’s a safe place to talk about Peter’s birth, I hate that it’s a monthly reminder of the c-section and it’s still really painful to me. Tomorrow is also a little nerve-racking because I’m going to verbally tell Peter’s birth story out loud… hopefully… if I don’t pass out first. ::weak smile::

We are buying our Christmas presents now. We want to have everything done before Jacob leaves December 7th. We will be celebrating St. Nicholas’ feast day this year (December 6th), instead of Santa Claus.

We are talking of holiday plans and letting family members know of our plans, so it’s not surprising when Jacob’s gone.

We are also discussing Jacob’s leave date. Who’s going to the airport, where we are going to say goodbye, how we are going to explain to Peter…

I’ve been crying a lot lately. A lot. I feel overly emotional about everything right now.

We got an iPod and I’m in LOVE. Seriously love this product.

Jacob and I are participating in a Bible Study about the new translations of the Mass. I’m really enjoying it! I’m also glad it’s only 5 weeks so Jacob and I could go together and have it finished before he leaves.

 

 

That’s some highlights about us for now. I’m hoping to have another photo post soon! We’ve been taking a lot of photos lately!

 

Busy times

I’m not big about photos in posts because I forget to take them off my camera in a timely manner. Since moving this is what we have been doing.

 

We have gone to the Zoo twice. We love it and plan on getting a membership!

If you can tell, Peter likes to draw with markers (the marks on arm), play the Wii, and sleep without clothes in our bed.

Science Center of Iowa! Peter was so excited for the Birthday Party!

Best buddies

Turtles hatched! I didn’t know their shell was soft!

Daddy holding paper for Peter to cut with Scissors! (first time with scissors)

Peter’s First Day of Tot School

Use your imagination and just turn your head. I forgot to move to the correct way. 😀

Peter is such the poser and loved school.

Break time with Daddy! Shared a doughnut and milk.

Not included are the Drill Weekends, Time outs, Cuddle time, Reading Books, Play Dates with new (and old) friends, Mommy (me) starting to Substitute again, and playing outside all the time!

We are super busy and I don’t know when we are going to slow down.

Leave Date

Jacob’s leaving for basic December 7th. We tentatively asked  for October (that way basic would be done and we could at least Skype on Christmas) or after the New Year, because Christmas is important.

What do we get, December 7th, with maybe a phone call for Christmas. Jacob will be graduating Basic February 3rd. Done with Tech School mid-August.

Very clearly I understand from Jacob’s family that they will be going to Jacob’s graduation too, and will want to be with him the whole time. AND frankly it bothers me. I don’t want to share my husband after not seeing him for almost 9 weeks. I don’t want Peter to have to share his father after missing and crying for him for almost 9 weeks. I also feel like I it would be different if he was coming home straight away, but he’s not. He has another training that lasts for 21 weeks. I think we need to soak up that time as a family. To let Peter have every opportunity to have Jacob’s EVERY attention. But I feel like I can’t tell them to come. And I won’t, their son/grandson/brother is graduating from basic, it’s a big deal for them too. Feeling like I’m going to have to share what little time we have with Jacob is almost too much to think about right now.

We got his leave date almost two weeks ago. I thought I was going to jump on here and excitedly write down how excited we were, but I’m feeling divided. I’m relieved we now have a leave date for Jacob, but sad that it will be over Christmas. I’m happy to be able to pay off bills, but almost nauseous thinking about parenting Peter alone for 10 months. With every happy/excited reaction I think of something I dread.

I’m trying hard to sort out my feelings. Feelings that I thought I would already know what I was going to feel. But here I am, raw and scared.

Yesterday I posted on facebook: is feeling unsettled today. I hate days where I can’t figure out my own feelings, let alone deal with Peter’s big feelings.

Today I woke up and was still feeling off balance, and I sat down to read a quick page in one of my religious books, “Daily Visitor” from 2002 (different things for different days with a mini-homily that matches up with today’s Mass readings).

The Psalm of the day, “Your right hand has saved me, O Lord.”

Mass readings: Acts 16:22-34/John 16:5-11

The Homily was Titled: Absence Means Growth

What it resonated deeply within me today was when you let someone go there’s a ministry called, ‘ministry of absence.’ In the absence of a beloved, we turn to God for help. We develop bonds with other people. We learn new coping skills, seek new ways of growth, do things we otherwise would not have attempted.

What God is giving me with Jacob leaving is a time to Grow, to Deeply depend on Him, and to be able to humble myself to say, “I need help.” I know I won’t be able to do it alone. I know I will have to ask for help and I know I can’t do with without Praying and believing that nothing comes to me without God’s knowledge, instead of being raw and scared I find myself hopeful of the great things God has planned for me for the next year.

Lord, let my ears be open to hear Your Directions. Let my eyes be open to Your Truth. Let my mouth only speak Your Praises. Let my hand only give loving touches. Amen. Alleluia.

Time keeps on ticking, into the future

I hear the clock tock louder then usual today. Every hour is one hour closer to moving. I started to hyperventilate think about it more. I am a planner and I confess, I made an excel spreadsheet about our move.

Dates left, Days Jacob works, Days we have a planned activity, and what I want to get done each day. I feel like a have a little more control after typing it all out.

Thankfully our apartment is not HUGE, but when moving it sure feels like it. Next Wednesday we are moving all our stuff to the dining room and the back of our living room. Leaving Peter’s room mostly untouched until the night before the move. We hope to move everything into the U-Haul Friday then have more time to clean Friday night and Saturday. We have a three page check off list of things to do before leaving. We will be going to Hometown to unload what we need, maybe drop Peter off at other set of Grandparent’s and go to take the rest of things to storage for a couple months.

Jacob has today off and I’m going to take advantage of it. We are going to go to Gage Park to ride the Mini-Train. Yesterday Peter told us: “Get Money, buy ticket, ride train!” We laughed so hard. He’s been talking about ‘his’ moneys and now I know why. He wants to get money to ride the train. ::So cute:: I’m loving this age! Then we are going to pack the rest of our bedroom (mostly done), do laundry for the last time here, the linen closet, and the bathroom.

We have been talking more and more about moving a couple times a day and how we are going to live with Grandma and Papa Bruce for a while. At this time, he seems okay with it. My sister-in-law will be watching Peter the day of the move. We are going to have him move some of his toys to the car he is riding in and also the U-Haul. He will then be whisked away so we can haul butt to get things done.

Pray for us as we get ready to move this week and next. I don’t know how much I’ll be writing. I have a couple things in drafts that I may flesh out to post while I’m moving.

 

moving countdown, starts now.

I have six weeks to pack up our apartment and move. We are going to move in with my parents until a place opens up in our Hometown. This means condensing our two bedroom apartment into my old bedroom and the playroom. I would like to live a more minimalist life, mainly because I hate dusting.

The thing is, we are still living in totes from the last move 15 months ago. We own things that will come in handy once we have a house and visitors. However, we’re not needing it right now. I go back and forth of selling or Goodwilling many of our things or keeping them because we don’t have the money to buy them once we are on our own again.

I have gone through all the totes in our apartment and decluttered 3 totes worth. We have 14 totes left of things that I think we should keep. 3 of those totes are Christmas totes. 4 of those totes are Peter’s baby clothes that we are keeping for the next kiddo. 2 are decorations that I’ve already put away… plus more. 🙂
Oh also in those 6 short weeks, I have to drive up to Hometown and help my parents get ready on their end (probably for a week), have my BFF come and visit for 4 days, and my niece come and visit for 3 days… So really, I have 4 weeks at home to get ready to go.

 

What do you think? Storage fees for 10 months or less, or getting rid and buying new (to us) later?

What would be your ‘have to haves’ while living in one bedroom?